How to Make Your Husband Feel Special
We all want to feel special right? To keep the love and bond you share alive, you should want to make your husband feel special (and of course vice versa). But once we have kids, it’s easy to trade the time that we used to spend with our spouse for time spent with our kids.
Or, doing laundry… paying the bills… sleeping…
Or, the million and one other responsibilities that come with parenting.
And that is why we need to be intentional about keeping our marriage a priority!
Not only does having a strong marriage mean that you will have a strong family. But above all, being on the same page as your husband is also critical to success in all areas of life.
Once you are married, “two become one”. So your marriage, and ultimately the health of your relationship with your husband, is now the base that will determine the condition of all the other areas in your life.
Therefore, communication and respect is key.
One simple way to strengthen your marriage, and be intentional about making it a priority, is to make your husband feel special.
Six Ways to Make Your Husband Feel Special
1. Find out his “Love Language” and be intentional about that
First and foremost, if you haven’t already read the book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, I highly recommend it.
Find out which of the five Love Languages is your husband’s. Then purposefully “speak” that language to him.
As a matter of fact, while you are at it, find out what yours is too! And be sure to let your husband know.
Knowing exactly how to make your husband feel special and loved, and exactly what doesn’t, will immediately improve the strength of your relationship.
2. Surprise him
Another great way to make your husband feel special is to surprise him!
Surprise him with something little to let him know that you were thinking of him.
This could be something as simple as leaving a note in his car so that he sees it when he is leaving for work.
Or, maybe you could pick up a special dessert for the two of you to share after the kids go to bed.
It’s always fun to mix things up and break up the routine. Surprises are a perfect way to do this.
3. Get a babysitter
Make sure you are going on dates regularly with your husband. Of course, you can always do mini date nights at home after your kids are in bed.
But, there is something special to be said for getting dressed up and going out.
As a result, taking this time for just the two of you, (#treatyoself), and getting back to your roots as a couple will make your husband (and you!) feel special.
4. Go on an overnight trip
In my opinion, this is one of the best and most fun ways to make your husband feel special.
Even if you are only gone for one night, taking an overnight trip out of the house with just the two of you will really strengthen your relationship and make your husband feel special.
Not to mention, it is pretty much a guaranteed good night’s sleep. And, what parent doesn’t feel like a rockstar after sleeping through the night?!
As important as it is to make time for your spouse, it is also equally important to make time for Yourself! Click here for self-care ideas!
5. Tell him what you appreciate about him
This is so, so simple. But honestly, how often do we tell each other how much we appreciate each other?
Regrettably, if you are anything like me, it’s probably not often enough.
Letting your husband know that you think he is an amazing father, or even just thanking him for always taking the trash out, will make him feel special. A little compliment and appreciation still goes a long way.
Incidentally, what you start doing for him is likely to be reciprocated. And, we all want to feel appreciated and valued for our hard work and sacrifices.
Finally, if you do nothing else on this list, make it a point to communicate.
I recommend taking 15 minutes every night after your kids are in bed to talk to each other.
Ask how his day was, and tell him how your day was. Without any distractions or interruptions.
Taking a little time every night to connect and unwind together will create a strong relationship in the long run.
Focus on the big picture
We all have our faults, but we can choose to focus more on the good and less on the bad.
And if you do make your husband feel special, you will strengthen your marriage. Which in turn creates a better life for your family.
In conclusion, relationships and parenting are hard. We can’t expect perfection all the time.
But when we invest in our relationships, the rocky times are a little less bumpy. And similarly the good times become great times.
Our marriage is stronger, our kids are happier, and we as parents, are being role models for our children’s future relationships.
Because let’s face it, we can tell them all we want, but in order for them to learn, we must show them.
So tell me, what do you do to make your husband feel special?
Did I miss anything? And let me know if you try out any of my ideas! <3