5 Great Tips For New Moms – A MUST Read If You’re Expecting
I am writing and sharing with you my tips for new moms. Why? Because if I were to guess, it is 3 A.M. and you’re currently reading this while feeding your newborn and hoping they go right back to sleep after feeding time. Was I spot on? (Let me know in the comments because I’m curious!)
I only guessed because I’ve been there. I’ve been through the breastfeeding troubles, the late nights, the bad poops, and all of the other “joys” that come with motherhood. Coming from somebody who has been there-done that, let me help make your life with a newborn 700 times easier.
Cue the unsolicited advice! But really, is it considered unsolicited if you willingly clicked on this article? Either way, let’s get down to business!
Here is the list I’ve assembled of my tips for new moms.
Tips for new moms #1:
Sleep when you can.
Everybody always tells you to sleep when the baby sleeps. But honestly, that piece of “advice” is probably the biggest crock of crap that I have ever heard from someone when my daughter was born. Everybody tells you to sleep when baby sleeps, but if that’s the case who is going to cook and clean and do other household duties throughout the day?
That’s why I am telling you to sleep when you can. There is no doubt that you will operate solely on supermom powers during your little dumplings first month or so of life. And getting an extra hour or so of sleep here and there could be just the boost you need to keep on doing your supermom duties.
Tips for new moms #2:
It’s okay to get frustrated, and even cry!
You’ve just given birth to a new human being who doesn’t even know what a toe is, let alone how to communicate with you in a way other than screaming and crying. Getting frustrated and having a good cry or two (or twelve) yourself is completely normal and it happens to the best of us. If somebody tells you they never broke down during their little one’s first few weeks of life, run. Run because they’re lying and delusional! LOL
I chose to breastfeed and I remember one night in particular where my daughter and I were having a difficult time getting a proper latch. She would latch well and then for some reason she would lose it and it was what seemed like an endless cycle of frustration and disappointment. We both cried and were on the verge of giving up, but on one last attempt, we were finally in sync and it was smooth sailing from there.
Being a mom is hard. You are a little person’s source of warmth, comfort and food. They start out completely dependent on you and need you for everything. While it may seem intimidating and frustrating now, you will miss it one day. (Oh look! Generic piece of advice number 2!) But seriously … you will.
Tips for new moms #3:
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
This is something I struggled with the most as a new mom. Heck, I still struggle with this from time to time. I feel like there is this unspoken rule that mothers are supposed to be able to do it all. That we aren’t allowed to mess up or admit that we need a little help or support. And it seems that when we do finally gather up the courage to ask someone for help, we feel guilty for burdening others or for “abandoning” our duties as mothers.
I think that underlying feeling is garbage. I hate that I feel that way and I hate that so many other moms feel that way too. It’s okay to ask for help. Chances are, there are people all around you who are more than willing to help you somehow.
I mean, that’s why the MLH family is here! We want to help you make smart parenting decisions and we want to support you every step of the way.
Tips for new moms #4:
Join a Mommy Group.
I can’t begin to tell you how helpful the mommy groups I’ve joined have been in my parenting journey so far. And there are so many different kinds of groups to join. Whether you want to pay a membership fee (say your local community’s mom group) or just request to join one of the many Facebook mom groups, there are so many out there that I’m sure are available to you.
Because we like to be practical here and help you save money, we can assure you that the mom groups on Facebook are just as good as a “membership fee required” group in your area. With Facebook groups, you have the option of joining virtual mom groups where you connect with moms from all over the country and world, or you can opt for a local group where you can connect with moms in your area.
You could also be like me and do both. As a freelancer, I turn to my mom groups a lot for writing inspiration. And as a mother, I turn to them for advice and to reach out/ meet up if I need someone to talk to while our kids play together somewhere.
Some people may be hesitant about mom social media groups because they can be extreme or judgmental. But as someone who has been a part of both good and bad groups, I can assure you that as long as you find the right one for you, you will find solace.
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Tips for new moms #5:
Take every piece of advice with a grain of salt.
At last we are on our final piece of advice. If you leave this article with just one thing in mind, let it be this last slice of wisdom. One of my biggest mistakes as a new mom was taking advice from others too literally.
When someone offers advice to you, it is important to remember that you don’t have to follow through with what they suggest. If something doesn’t feel right to you, then follow your gut and handle a situation how you think it should best be handled.
You are the mother and while it may not seem like it at the time, you will know what is best for you and your little one. You are the parent and it is your job to make the final decision on tough topics, not anyone else’s.
When the going gets tough, just remember that you successfully grew and gave birth to a tiny little human. That is the most magical thing we can do. You may be frustrated and confused and scared and anxious, but keep your cool and enjoy the ride. Because unfortunately it will be over with before you know it.
What tips for new moms do you have?! Let us know below!
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